She may not be used to the chaos. Sometimes she has felt alone and misunderstood. Every room becomes a playground and it can feel like they only have two volumes — loud and louder. If the kids act defiantly toward her, make sure they know you are just as much a part of the decision. Our new marriage was already on the rocks. The undertone of my son's comment was clear: "you should have She just needs to express and process her frustrations with blended family dynamics. We ask for gender and age to assign you the appropriate mentor.