And vice versa, if that's what applies to you? If you're a single woman , more than anyone else, you live under constant pressure to justify your life and your choices. What everybody else seems to say is "the best experience EVER. Once you're there, it might be a better time to look up and see who's around you, headed in the same direction. They don't all end in happy, monogamous bliss if that's what you want , or with a loving partner who respects you. How many people are doing that, but are in relationships at the same time, thus hurting people with their desire to self-direct? If, at the end of the day, you're more aware than not of the fact that you're not really going to be able to commit, or this isn't something you genuinely want to do, you have every right to choose to spare someone else's feelings, someone who could and maybe would be more invested than you realize. It's the opposite actually: When you DO get into a relationship, you want to do it perfectly. You are, in short, living a very full life right now and unless you dropped some things from your agenda, you would never have the time to date anyone—and you don't want to drop any of the beloved things you have going on.