Make sure the goals are reachable but require effort to obtain. Does your child shy away from competition? Having a positive approach will brighten their outlooks on a situation. It may take a few tries along the way. Look over these 38 things accepting moms say and use them with your children. Cheer on your child to beat another runner in a race or to take home the trophy from the spelling bee. It will show your children that you care and that they are free to talk to you about their interests.