These periods of disconnection can resurface the same way grief often does: intermittently, without warning. Many women turn to their own mothers to glean insight, sometimes feeling a deepening of connection, or at the very least a more well-rounded understanding of their maternal lineage. And I was worried that losing my own mother would make me a worse mother. That grief — which may be resurfacing for the first time in years — can deepen the already common sense of isolation new moms often experience. Grief and longing can also make us feel detached, dissociated even, complicating the corporeal experience of pregnancy. Pregnancy Parents and parenting comment. When a newborn does enter the picture, the circuitousness of grief can take a toll on the ensuing bonding process. But we show up for ourselves — and our children — anyway. These feelings are natural and understandable.