Unaddressed depression or anxiety can cause someone to see aspects of their life—including their relationships—in a way that doesn't necessarily reflect reality substance abuse does this too, Bobby adds. That can lead two spouses living under the same roof to start living separate lives: "They sleep in different beds, have different schedules, don't discuss their inner lives, have different friends, and simply no longer look to each other for much of anything anymore. True as that may be, it's not uncommon for a husband to feel like he's become his wife's last priority. They hear their partner's requests for something as criticism that they're bad, or not enough. Bobby points out that many wives resent their husbands because "they often feel frazzled, frustrated, and resentful about the higher level of mental energy and material energy they are expected to devote to their household, career and families. All of which they feel increasingly cut off from. Then they can even start to view the people closest to them, who are now noticing their lack of energy, engagement, and productivity as the enemy.