I think it would be really interesting to hear her side of things and that will help you realise the part you play. It must have been an incredibly difficult time. When I give an opinion on whatever subject, she treats it with disdain or contradicts it. The first thing that struck me about your letter — which was imbued with sadness — was the great expectations you had, and have, of your daughter. Order by newest oldest recommendations. Relationships shift in families when a parent dies.