Oh, and try to avoid affectionate nicknames. I have the problem in that my penis is small whilst erect but tiny when flaccid. Whenever I go to public toilets, I always use the cubicles and not the urinals. I became comfortable with it through the discovery of small penis humiliation, realizing that there was a recognized niche for what I have and what I enjoy sexually. It was amazing seeing how differently she reacted to something so big in comparison. Try to find things that work for you both. When I lost my virginity, I was very scared that my partner would laugh or leave, so I put off sex initially. A lot of poor performance can come from anxiety. I assumed I was just a late developer, but when I did finally get pubic hair when I was 15, my penis seemed to remain the same size.