However, the author, a reformed stalker, has collected numerous fascinating stories on the subject. Philips for daring to share her story, and for compiling a clear, enriching book on the topic of romantic obsessions. Most impressively, Phillips intertwines her own story with research in such a way that owns up to her actions — she accepts what she did and never tries to justify it. Obsession is such a relative term, and Phillips mines it for many original and startling insights. Going beyond images of creepy, fatally attracted psychos, male fantasies of unbridled female desire, and the platitudes of self-help books, Phillips reveals a powerful, troubling, and surprisingly common phenomenon. And there are two sides of each coin.