That's fine if you're one of these people to whom all coffees taste alike. It's obviously harder to take the same approach with family members, but Schwartz says there's no reason to put up with people saying or doing things that are unkind. Neuroscience tells us that letting your blood sugar sink sends stress signals to your brain. People get into trouble because they try so hard to be perfect and then they beat themselves up when they're not. That's very unhealthy and unloving," Schwartz says. For years, Schwartz never made her bed, simply throwing the covers over it. Loving yourself means accepting that you're stuck inside your own imperfect skin. Now she makes it every day for a simple reason: "Walking into my bedroom when my bed is made makes me smile. Begin by being good to yourself.