It took some practice and quite a few candid talks with my partner about what I liked to reframe sexting in a way that celebrated my wants and needs rather than regurgitating the language of a tired erotica novel. Are there names that make you feel uncomfortable or take you way out of the moment? Sexting is a touchy subject. Instead, talk openly with your partner about it — and then just have fun. Steamy descriptions and delicious one-liners lit up my phone, and just like that, I started to crave them. When your phone is the only tool, clarity is key. At the beginning, what I typed didn't just feel ridiculous.