Use your fingers or a vibrator to touch yourself. But, lovemaking the next morning was slow, amazing, and all I dreamt it would be. Meet the Expert Gigi Engle is a feminist author, certified sex coach, sexologist, and sex educator with over five years experience and accreditation with the World Association of Sex Coaches. When in doubt, missionary or spooning are your safe bets. It will help everything slide more smoothly. My new husband carried me over the threshold of our room, and I felt like the most special, loved woman ever.