Sign in My Account Subscribe. Cole spoke of his mom with unbridled love and respect. He took off her top and undid her bra. We learn to confide in nobody. But, as can happen with sports, their glee in that can both enable and camouflage sexism. In the right context, physical aggression is fun, satisfying, even thrilling. He tried lowering it, but that felt unnatural, so he withdrew from conversation altogether. Cole, for instance, spent most of his childhood with his mother, grandmother, and sister—his parents split up when he was 10 and his dad, who was in the military, was often away.